Self-care after 45 isn't about the spa day, though that can be part of it. It's a shift in mindset, and a handful of honest questions about where your energy actually goes.

Most women try three or four therapists before one actually fits. Here's why that keeps happening in midlife, and what a therapist who understands both perimenopause and your history actually looks like.

If you have started searching things like "perimenopause rage" or "why am I so angry," you are far from alone. Research suggests irritability is the primary mood complaint for up to 70% of women in perimenopause. About 4 in 10 women experience mood symptoms during the transition that are similar to what they may have felt premenstrually, except the timing is unpredictable and the intensity is often greater.