Self-care after 45 isn't about the spa day, though that can be part of it. It's a shift in mindset, and a handful of honest questions about where your energy actually goes.

Every article about midlife marriage assumes leaving is the honest answer. This one's for the woman who's already decided to stay, and wants to do it well instead of quietly.

Most women try three or four therapists before one actually fits. Here's why that keeps happening in midlife, and what a therapist who understands both perimenopause and your history actually looks like.

If you have started searching things like "perimenopause rage" or "why am I so angry," you are far from alone. Research suggests irritability is the primary mood complaint for up to 70% of women in perimenopause. About 4 in 10 women experience mood symptoms during the transition that are similar to what they may have felt premenstrually, except the timing is unpredictable and the intensity is often greater.